Oxford dictionary
defines a zone as an area distinguished on the basis of a particular characteristic,
use, and restriction. Friends are close people who share common friends. Friendzoning is like someone grounding
you not to fly to becoming a couple. Friendzoning
that stage of a relationship when two people involved cannot take it to the
next level. Sometimes people we meet can take it to the extreme to even familyzone us after friendzoning. This
means you are now to treat each other as brother and sister. Obviously this
means no more discussion of a love relationship.
First step is to find out
if you are family or friendzoned by
anyone. Look at things that a person does to imply that they are not free really
into you. Men at times mistake friendly women for signs that they are
interested.
Some women prefer to
treat themselves as prizes ready to be won after certain terms and conditions
are met. It’s a man’s ultimate adventure to do the chasing after a woman who
feels sweet and friendzones him. Someone
once said ‘If you want it, you face it’
Women normally friendzone if they no longer feel the
attention and attraction. Sometimes getting too close to some people makes them
follow predictable routines which get boring. Learn to compromise and do the
unthinkable things like faking tears, buying flowers and washing her feet. Break
the boundaries. Do what her brother and friends can not do. Whether it is her
birthday gift, go beyond what an ordinary person would buy.
Who said Love is not a tough game. You can
never get new results doing the same things.
Find a motivation to
remove the friendzone. They say marry
your friend. There are those
irritating old school statements ‘you are such nice person and you will get someone
meant for you’, and ‘Sorry dear,I do not think of you that way’. Let us be
friends. Life teaches us that the battles we do not fight are the easiest to
win. The Bible is against us accepting rejections. In fact God did not give men
a spirit of fear.
Refuse petty names from
the word go. These are likely to ease their freindzoning motives. Insist on
being called real names to show some seriousness. Names like my brother from
another father are signs of danger. Why should one write dear as ‘dia’? Make your
presence to be felt. Once in a while throw in lines describing your future as a
couple in conversations.Fr example One day I will marry you. It can even be
negative like I do not think a nice beautiful woman like you can marry a person
like men. This will make her go on the defensive. She may want to prove you
wrong. Communicate your thoughts indirectly. Show that you need to take it to
the next level
Do not be her
relationships counsellor. Refuse to listen and discuss her men issues. Tell her
off in a nice way why she can not discuss other men in her life with you. Let
her always think that it will hurt you. Present yourself as best alternative. For
example ask her why she talks about losers when nice men like you are
available.
Time is your best
asset. Make sure that all your de-friendzoning
strategies are on schedule and work within a timeline. You will not plan to
defriendzone yourself for 10years.Obviously if you do not act first, someone
else will. Remember it’s about who has the best game.
People who friendzone or family zone you normally
are not sure if you are the right person they want to spend the rest of their
life with. Proof your worth without necessarily trying too much to impress.
This situation requires hard work and more time to get to know each other. It
may not necessarily be love at first sight like most people. Have you met
couples who have grown to love each other? Sometimes hate slowly becomes the
love. Success of this mission requires persistence and taking no for an answer.
Unfriendzoning a woman
does not mean you become a psycho because of desperation. Do not try to impress
her because that never works. Do not be in her face every minute otherwise you
will irritate her. Be yourself.
Ivan
.N.Baliboola
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