Everyone would agree that you need to be sure and picky when choosing a person you will live with for the rest of your life. If it is a future together. Get it right from the start.The Oxford dictionary defines cohabiting as a couple living together and having a sexual relationship without being married. Cohabiting Option has grown out of suspicion because women fall in love for different temporary reasons ranging from excitement to material gains. This breeds fear of commitment in some men. Fear arising from mistrust. Desire for cohabiting is likely to double over time because women are more focused on hooking MR. Right. Women unleash their true colours after getting the ring. Very few women are real.
Disappointments have made very many people especially men to cohabit. There is this theory about shoe sizes. Before you take shoes, you have to try them on not just looking at the sizes. Sex has lost respect and it is no longer a preserve for the married. Today people have embraced 'friends with benefits' , 'Hall pass', and'one night stands'. These have pushed for emotionless sexual relations. Some cultures strongly value children. People from such cultures fear marrying those that are either barren or impotent. People decide to live together illegally just because they fear commitment before they are sure about some reproductive capabilities.
Some Boda boda guy keeps advising me that men are supposed to officially Marry a woman after giving birth to at least four children .Most Women would desperately accept a cohabiting venture out of desperation and hope. But how many keep marriage promises? Is n't it safer to only live together after an official marriage? It does not hurt for the cohabiting couple to have at least a legal contract to that effect.
There are many people who see marriage as an unnecessary legal requirement burden which is expensive rather than a companionship exercise. Costly weddings have made some to simply cohabit till they raise enough funds to hold a marriage ceremony. Some choose not to be married. They feel that either you are committed or you are not; a marriage certificate will not make any difference. There are those who want to give the relationship a trial period before deciding on marriage. This is a very common attitude, and quite logical. Why not give a relationship a test drive? Can you live together? Will you be able to make the compromises necessary? Cohabiting is a sure way to get married easily .If a Couple that has failed to get parental approval; they may resort to staying together. They set pregnancy as abet for their parents' approval of their love relationship. Today we see very many pregnant ladies on their introduction and wedding ceremonies.
The choice to cohabit or not to cohabit entirely depends on you and what you stand for. Christians should never cohabit because it is not acceptable. Disappointed married Brothers who have picked their partners from church should not be an endorsement to try cohabiting.
Ivan N. Baliboola
The author has worked with some of the most well-known and influential East African brands, conducting marketing,Public relations, strategies, crisis management,and social media. He is a proud Award winner of the prestigious Public Relations Association of Uganda excellence Awards. He has volunteered his life to addressing environment and health related causes.He is also a blogger, professional critic, and strategist.
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