Here
is how to make your relationship last
Love never fails; it’s
the reason we have to make it work. Recently a woman was explaining the
importance of communication in relationships using her marriage as an example.
She said that her husband once told her that her long night dresses bruise
him.Obvoiusly the point the man was passing on is for her to change her closet
to accommodate short dresses. To him she looked better in short night dresses
but she had no idea. Relationships last because of compromise and patience. All
people are different. Always ensure that the communication between spouses does
not breakdown. If this couple was not talking, would they learn to work out
differences? Couples in lasting relationships talk about everything including
their dislikes all the time. Discussing openly about relationship challenges
starts from couples being real about each other. Secrecy has no place in any
health relationship.
Even long distance
relationships can not fail. Even the long distance relationship case study of
Burundi has provided that if something is meant to be, it will always be. The
coup attempt failed even when the world thought it was successful. You need to
get real with love and fight with reality if you want to last. Get in the habit
of making promises. Do not go back in time and change the reasoning after a
break up. You always make the best decision you can at that time with the
information you have. You fall in love because you feel someone is special and
so keep the promise unconditionally.
Spend more time together.
This will help you bond. It does not have to be an expensive night out. You can
schedule regular activities together as a couple like jogging, brisk walking,
and watching movies. This gives you more time to learn your loved one and bond.
Learn to support your partner
overcome their weaknesses.
Do not dramatize their mistakes. If they do apologize forget it even happened.
It is nagging to keep bringing up past issues that are presumed solved. This is
likely to bring up trust issues. It makes the other person feel uncomfortable
in a relationship. They may move out.
Success in love is not about the looks, and finances.
You need to have a strategy that is based on respect and commitment. Discuss
the terms and expectations of the relationship as a couple. These terms can be
on sex life, children, family, finances, and work. There is no such a thing
like unconditional love. Always set terms and conditions otherwise adultery may
be acceptable.
Love is a sacrifice,
and you need to lay down everything for it to work. Love should be love. Leave
the rest of your reservation about love as mathematical equations for God to
solve. Always seek to know more about relationship and handle misunderstanding
as they happen. Never save them for another day. Remember whoever believes in true love, believes the impossible
.Take an initiative as a couple to get people to mentor you in relationships. Identify
a married couple that has already been there to be accountable to. Ask them to
be your mentors. They will always offer guidance and direction to you on how to
last in relationships.
Ivan
.N.Baliboola
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